T- I’m breaking up with this Man, he doesn’t know how to treat me better. Yesterday was our anniversary, he didn’t even remember, what should I do with a man who doesn’t even know how to make me happy? It’s not always about Money, yems I’m really breaking up with him this time.
Y- Toke calm down, two wrongs don’t make a right you know, let’s just be patient with him.
T-But till when?
This was a conversation I had with my friend Toke, You see Toke is every Man’s dream girl, A definition of Ravishing beauty, She’s got that tan complexion and her character is second to none. She has that luscious figure and can be a great support system. But Toke keeps nagging about her man. They met during her youth service period and they hit off immediately.
He was loving, caring, thoughtful, they both were the epitome of God When for single folks like myself. But something changed.. Jimi got a job in a very big company and he started having less time for Toke, when asked why? He blames it all on Work. Dont get me wrong, I understand that a man can be busy, but when he is busy on cold nights.. And almost all the time? Then something is definitely wrong somewhere.
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Back to our Topic shall we?
The saying that Men come from Mars and Women from venus is not far from being the truth. Because We think differently. Men think logically but women tend to think Emotionally. To make a relationship work, it requires a whole lot of effort and mutual respect. Women are really divine beings that when I look around.. I simply say this favourite saying.. God dey Create! 😘
Some people think it takes too much to please a woman but in retrospect, it takes Your thinking and heart to satisfy a woman. You’re probably wondering why I said thinking? Well it’s not so far fetched. Firstly, you have to have an idea of your own type of woman,I said have an idea because you can’t fully understand women 😂 know what makes her happy, sad, in between, Know this and know peace ✌️
Women love attention! If you want to make your relationship work with a woman.. Give her attention, now speaking of attention, it can mean different things, can mean listening to what she’s telling you, asking about what she wants, talking to her, calls, chats, random texts, being thoughtful.
A woman would fall in love more with a thoughtful guy than one who isn’t, you want to be a thoughtful guy? Just listen. Women always leave hints about what is wrong with them, either emotionally, financially or physically. If she’s having a bad day, trust her to want to call you and rant about it, it’s your job as a partner to LISTEN 👂. Stop trying to solve her issues immediately she’s telling you, stop looking for solutions so the rant can end. Allow her to finish talking, sympathise with her, make her feel cherished then from there you can go on to finding the value of ‘Y’
Trust me, this would only make her see you like a safe haven to come talk to when she has a bad day. Because she trusts you to listen.
Make out time to go on dates! Welcome to Nigeria, Nigerian guys will tell you they are busy hustling they don’t have Time to go out.. Sorry o! Hustler of life, if you know you’re hustling and you’re so busy then why decide to keep a lady? Ladies love attention! You either give it or leave it for someone else to give. Don’t be hoarding anty like a palliative and be denying her the pleasures of feeling cherished. Go out with your woman, make memories!! Fun fact: If at all you guys fall out along the way, Your memories might just be the ingredient to bring it back together. Not all the time, come over, come over.
Great ideas for dates can be researched on Google but here are few👇
- Lunch dates
- Dinner dates
- Tours of beautiful locations you both have never been to(within and outside your premises)
- Learning dates (library, museums, etc)
- Attend workshops on skill acquisitions together.. No be everytime food, food 🍲 😂
- Food dates (eating in restaurants you’ve both never tried)
There are many more ways to show your woman you care about her which would make her stick around.
Compliments please!! 😏 Women make a lot of effort to actually look attractive. Which is what you saw that you just had to make her your babe right? Tell her how gorgeous she looks! either on makeup or not, pay attention to that tiniest detail as the little fashion band she’s wearing on her wrist. It makes her feel appreciated! ☺️ Even when she looks terrible, probably tired still attempt to humour her by telling her how corny but beautiful she looks. This Male Gender sha, Don’t you know compliments go a long way to a woman’s heart? Why do you think women fall for what they hear? Compliment her at the chance you get. It’s not easy to be a woman. Don’t say she looks nice.. Go hard! Tell her she looks Ravishing! And please say it like you mean it.. Not saying it like you’re just testing to see if what Deepest thoughts told you would work 😂
Random texts? Hell yeah! Do you want to keep her thinking about you all day? Then try random things to spice things up! Randomly text her about what you miss about her, just to let her know you’re thinking of her, if you’re not the romantic type, you could always take a clue from Google.. All it takes is a click,Voila!different cute random texts you can steal from. 😂Although, I’d advice to keep it original because it’s a personal thing but seriously you don’t have to type 2a notes to make her happy yunno🙄2 sentences with her in the middle of it all is just perfect. Btw I also offer such services😅just send me a mail.
Converse, Communicate! I believe nobody is a mind reader so don’t expect her to know why you’re withdrawn because of what happened to you from something.. Speak to her in clear words, tell her what’s wrong with you, talk to her about your dreams and aspirations, talk to her about what gets you off and on! If you’re having a disagreements it’s normal. Don’t go a full day without at least a text to know whatever happens, you still got her and she’s still got you. I’m always baffled at how you’ll claim to love someone but you can go 2 days without reaching out! Na wa o😏🙄
Communicate frequently, even if you’re the busy type, as long as you weren’t busy when you met her the first time till when she became your woman, you’re not too busy to spare some minutes to talk on phone, or chat..let her know if something is wrong with you, she’s not a mind reader. Another thing is, if she sends her pictures to you.. Tell her how beautiful she looks, don’t just say they’re nice and keep quiet.🙂
Make sure you are both empowering each other, Empowerments can come in different ways, either in teaching, learning, giving, learn new things together and know how to correct her without making her feel worthless because she doesn’t know something you know or because you’re better in a aspect than her. women know how to read these things. Listen to her observations,
Financially, I can’t really say so much here because 😂Women like money, yes I said it! If you’re actually lucky enough to get a woman who doesn’t ask you for things, please make sure you give her without she asking. Says a whole lot about you but you won’t know. I understand that you might not be financially buoyant but out of the little you have, you can always get her something, it doesn’t have to be on an occasion. Those little gifts that says (I was thinking of you) actually matters a lot. It just shows you’re thoughtful and can do better if given the opportunity.. Infact, talk to her about your status financially, it’s not your job to give her money because you both aren’t married yet, but yeah so what if she needs it? Don’t call her names because she’s asking you for money. It’s a normal thing.
Its better to tell her how things are for you so she knows what to not be expecting and what to be expecting.
If you are just trying to make ends meet, and not ready for a relationship yet, it’s perfectly understandable! Make that money and come to my blog to read again on how to keep 😊☺️😘
On a final note, Remember!!
Remember my friend Toke from earlier? Her man is bad at remembering matters of delicacy such as their anniversary and little things, it makes her feel as dou, he doesn’t care. Remember important dates to the both of you, keep to your promises and Remember to always show love to your Woman. She would only treat you the way you set the tone for her to.
And with that, we’ve finally come to the end of this lengthy topic 😩😩 How was it? Which haven’t you been doing right? Drop it in the comments section below 🎤
Ps: All my observations have been made from tremendous amount of reading and shared real life experiences from Men and not women who have tried this and it worked for them. 😉
They say it takes two to tango, so I’ll be doing a sequel on The Men’s version 😁Who’s excited? 💃 💃 💃 💃 💃 💃
Til next Friday..
Cheers to the good life of Love 🥂
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