At a point in your life, you’ve faced this.., maybe you’re still facing it.. Or about to… Its OK to be sad, its okay to cry, it’s ok to feel alive but dead.. Its okay if you don’t see happiness in what you do.. It just that hollow feeling.. That extrinsic emotion that brews in your heart.
It’s not proper to dwell on it, Motivational speakers like myself would advice you not to.. But what if that thing that gives you happiness, is the very thing that makes you gloomy?
I don’t have an answer for that, but I guess you do..
Thank you for coming back here to read my blog✨✨☺️ if you’re a new acolyte, Welcome 😊. Not many people can see beyond the societal norm as you did. It’s an honour 😇Hoping you grabbed your popcorn? It’s gonna be a long ride.
It’s Tuesday morning and I’m lying down on my bed.. Thinking of what to write about next.. Afterall there’s always something init? 🙄
So earlier today I watched a YouTube video and got inspired to talk about A woman’s worth. But before we proceed I’ll like to share that God gave every woman 3 things.. INSTINCT, INTUITION, GUT! Trust these 3..they hold the reigns in finalizing what’s true or not.
Curiosity gets the better of me when I see ladies or hear stories of women in toxic, unhealthy relationships.. I want to know why? What’s holding them down from leaving?
My mum always tells me, that there’s always a sign, A signal.. That would tell you the kind of relationship you’re committing yourself into.
Commitments sha😑
It’s sad that not every girl before growing into the woman they would be have the adequate guidance that would set them straight on the journey of life. This is the reason why you don’t know your worth. Not to sound like a relationship expert because I’m not, but I know that respect begats respect.. A man would only treat you the way you treat yourself.
Let’s say, Temi has gone through a lot in life, lost her parents at 12years old, struggles to make ends meet, then she meets a guy today and she tells him all about her, Temi hasn’t really found herself, so she goes on to tell the guy how she feels insecure, and worthless and how hard life has been, not f once does she say something great about herself. This guy seeing opportunity, tells her all the sweet words Adam didn’t even tell Eve, lavsihes her with praises and all… Temi feels like she’s finally met her match made in heaven. Along the line this guy starts showing his true color, (they always do) starts with the violence, disparaging remarks about Temi’s whole life, brainwashes her into actually believing she’s not worth much and he’s the only one that can accept her. Now Temi didn’t find herself before committing into this kind of relationship, all she needed was someone to love her and make her feel special.
Now finding yourself doesn’t mean been choosy.. Finding yourself simply means having your own kind of personality, what you like, what you don’t like, how you carry yourself, how you love yourself, Your values, Your principles, Your Style, Your substance!
No guy is going to marry a just anyhow woman, yuno why? Because he doesn’t want to rear just anyhow children.
As a woman we should not always be hungry for attention.. Take time to study what kind of being you are? One of the best ways is to also get closer to God, ask for his guidance to lead you on the right path.
Guess what? When you finally discover your Values and substance, Trust me you he (the man) will step up!
Never let your thoughts be shambolic
A woman who knows her worth would go into a relationship with goals.. Because once those goals aren’t met then what’s the game we’re playing?
I didn’t intend for this post to be so long.. My apologies 😂 let my keyboard rest, I’ll like to say something “Sex would overcloud your judgement” #thinkaboutit😒
Don’t just be a fine girl, Be a fine girl with class and don’t take bullshit from nobody.. Because you know your worth.
That was a long one.. Did your popcorn finish? 😜
Till next time, I hope you as a 👩 end up being known for your Standards.
Maybe I should write a piece on men? There are Afterall, 2 sides to a watermellon 😁😁
Let me know what you think and don’t forget to like, follow me, and drop your comments.
One if the things I’ve always known from my tots.. Is I’m not really much of a friendship person… Why? I don’t know.. Guess they don’t just come.. Of course I used to think.. Maybe I’ll grow older.. And have lots of friends and we’ll always have fun, go out, yunno.. Those cute imaginations that never really came to pass.. .. Sure I did have friends. Still do…..
But just not with all the pictorial references I had back then.. My mum used to think I was anti social.. . She probably still thinks so..While growing we moved to new places a couple of times.. So I guess I wasn’t able to keep those friendships long term.. Its sad really. If you’re like me.. I’m sure you’re connecting to this.. I wrote this just for you.. Its OKAY not to be everywhere and not know everybody .. Stop tryna be what you’re not..
Of course I wish I was like those other kids.. With friends that they hang out.. Make memories, do sily things, make youth friendly mistakes…. But it just doesn’t happen.. So with this.. I’d say, Good friends are really hard to come by.
Not everyone can put up with your shades of crazy you know..
If you know you have them, maybe 1.if you’re lucky maybe 2..or 3..or more.. Hold them close, treat them right.. Love them with all your heart.. Because Good friends that really care about you, and don’t see you as a competition, instead see you and want you to be prosperous.. Want to grow together.. For better..those friendships you can always reach out to if you have a issue.. Even if it’s a family issue, they’ll keep your secrets, dry your tears, laugh with you while crying with you,
Those are the real friends…Don’t ever take them for granted.. Ever.. If you were before, take 3 steps back and rethink… Who knows how many more days we have left on earth? Many friends after the death of the other.. Begin to regret not showing how much they really did care for the other.. Don’t fall in this category.
Friendship really, is the best kind of feeling …
Probably you’re different, you get friends but these friendships don’t last long…. You always end up losing communication.. I can say you’ve not found that destined friend of yours.. Keep searching.. You can have lots of acquaintances but make sure you keep a small circle of intimate friends..while searching.. Don’t also be a third wheel in a already built friendship of 2..else you’ll hurt your own emotions. Once you feel this way.. Cut it out!
There are different kind of friendships… Or so I’ve heard.. School friends, Home friends, book friends, family friends, friends of friends,Food friends, Money friends, occupational friends, … Lol. A whole lot.. I only describe and subscribe to BEST FRIENDS friends that can be in all this categories..they can be any type of friend depending on how you’re feeling… When you eventually get these kind of friends, You’ll know it was always meant to be, because friends are always there. Rain or Shine✨
Dogs are loyal and are ideally the best friends.. But they can’t talk.. Don’t kid you.
Generally talking about friendships.. I can’t relate.. I don’t even have childhood friends… Lol but hey, that’s OK too, you ever have that gloomy look on your face when you see pictures and the sily way friends do together? Yeah me too.. 5000miles away from the acquired friendships you have? It’s ok too.. In the end I think we all just want to be happy and importantly make good memories so at the end of our youthful spring, when we can’t do those spontaneous stuff.. We can look back and be glad we did live the life with beautiful memories to show..
I cannot overemphasize the usefulness and how important it is to keep good friends… I cannot.. Because you already know.
I should get going now..i hope at a point while reading.. You thought of your friends and maybe.. Just maybe you smiled.
I challenge you to send your friends.. An appreciation note for being in your life.. They deserve it.
Hey there, welcome back to my blog ✨if you’re reading this.. I want you to know that I really appreciate you ❤️it’s not easy to click on a link to be directed to another app entirely…. God bless you.
I’m sure at one point in our life, we’ve had exes.. Still going to have, and probably currently about to have 😂.. So I was really thinking about how someone meets another person, becomes attracted to that person, become so closely related that you can tell all that goes on in their day. It’s a real beautiful feeling.. The emotion that it entails in connecting.. In really connecting to another person’s soul.. Tragically, falls in love with that person and after a while.. They don’t seem to be the same anymore… They don’t seem to have that light and spark anymore… Then 2 souls disconnect.. And we the friends of the individuals call them exes..
Ever tried looking into a broken mirror?
If you’ve dated someone before.. But it didn’t later work out well enough… Its absolutely fine
What’s not fine is seeing them in a bad light and thereby beginning to discuss about them in a very disparaging manner. You know one thing about matters concerning the heart? It’s really out of the human control… Just the way you don’t get to decide who your parents will be… Same way you don’t get to decide who your heart beats for… So don’t hate.. Just accept that’s the way it was supposed to be.
This goes out to those hurting and still recovering from paralysed hearts… It’ll take time but I promise you it’ll be fine… And guess what? That heart you think is paralyzed? Will be up and beating for another person…now in another sense, you’ve passed through an experience that’ll probably make you wiser, more knowledgeable or leave you just the way you were..
If it leaves you wiser.. That means you’re step closer to really discovering yourself which is the whole point of the real world.. So embrace your feelings.. Pick lessons and make adjustments.. Who knows.. You’re probably what someone somewhere is praying for. So this was to further sharpen your abilities.
This goes out to the friends we dated… I call them friends because falling in love with this person was absolutely unintentional. These are the kind of relationships that hurt the most because not only do they lose their love but the friendship…Dear Ex friend… We miss you.. The fun and all of it.. But moving forward would always be the end result of any action. So take a deep breath and smile ☺ because now you’ve known what you didn’t before..
It’s Progress…
I dont really want to make this long… But this goes out to the exes still trying to make it work. Shout out to you!!! This has got to be the second hardest thing after stone. I know you want that person back… But don’t because of this lose your own vision… Try your best and if it still doesn’t work.. Just let it be, don’t sweat it. Shit happens but you’ve still got your life to live and it’s going to be a good life.
If I 😍 you was a promise…
Finally, Dear Ex, Current Ex, Future Ex,
I’m sure that relationship made you realize things about yourself.. So work on you, love you, and chill till someone lucky comes around.
Top of the Day to you there, Welcome back to my blog ✨ I’m sincerely really grateful to everyone that commented, liked, and shared my last post.. Ya’all are the real mvps☺️… If you’re a newbie here, Hi! Welcome to Deepest Thoughts it’s exhilarating so grab a sit.
Sips tea
So we’re talking about Dreams and aspirations.. This has really had a grave impact on every human born of a woman… Lol I know. I said born of a woman because aren’t we all?
Growing up, we all have that great aspiration of what we would love to become, A lawyer, A doctor, An actor, Artist, Artisan, Dancer, you just name it! We grow and so does this dream we hold so dearly in our hearts, hoping and wishing that one day, this dream would become a reality.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work out the way we planned it, either because of the forces of the world, or either because we actually failed to take correct action at the required time. This further makes us worry, sad, depressed, and even rubbishes any glint of happiness we might have.
Even our parents had their own dreams and aspirations, your dad, your mum, didn’t grow up thinking oh why not be a federal worker? Or oh I want to be a housewife, (don’t take offence if these are your parents jobs, it’s just an Illustration) they too had that mind-blowing, jawdroppping dream, that scintillating and picturesque future they aimed for.. But life happens while we aren’t watching and they found themselves in another place entirely.
Dreams are sweeter while in a jacuzzi
There’s something called being intentional about what you want,you know that favourite saying that what you want is within your grasp? It’s not entirely true, but it will be once you become intentional about it, once you begin to understand how life happens to people, once you begin to learn from the mistakes of your predecessors.
Growing up, I wanted to be so many things, A lawyer, A lyricist, A Presenter, An Actress(don’t dare laugh 😂) A dancer even if I couldn’t really dance, A ballerina(I learnt barley in school for 1year I sucked😂) Growing up further I began to see I could be an entrepreneur, I learnt make up, boom.. I’m a makeup artist, I learnt Marketing from books, (oh I’m still learning dou.)
You know everything just sumed up to different pieces of me, and what I could actually be.. But life began to happen and I sat down to ask myself, what exactly is my talent? Out of all I wanted to be.. I single handedly picked 1..A Presenter, because my talent is my voice. Now I know you’ve probably heard that oh you can try everything and see which works out.. Lol time is going while you’re trying everything and hopefully you don’t end up an adult still trying to find their feet in this big home we call earth.
It’s a long road, and mother nature isn’t always friendly
Sometimes, we have big dreams and aspirations that we really might believe it’ll work out, but not matter how we try, the universe just doesn’t care about our efforts, it’s advisable not to waste time sulking and develop a “PLAN B”
A PLAN B is just another option that you can explore to yield you towards that greatness you’ve always dreamt about, so if you want to be doctor but tragicly, you failed in med school, you keep pushing, but all the same set up a plan B, not thinking that hey you won’t eventually get what you’re aiming for. But in the regards of oh this isn’t working, let’s see what else I’ve got in my box.
A PLAN B
Not to begin to sound like a motivational speaker but maybe I kinda am🤔 Big dreams are beautiful to have, you imagine how lush your life would be, your mainson, your cars, the loyl, your children perhaps? Don’t you just love to dream? I know I do, and I’m most perfect at imaginations 😂
So this goes out to you, You this Beautiful soul, reading this post, I’m reaching out to you, To keep believing in yourself, and be intentional about that dream of yours, Start something that would take you 1 step closer to achieving this dream, and remember to have a plan B just incase of incasities.
And also to you who has been struggling, trying to make yourself a better person, trying to make ends meet, trying and hoping that one day this would all pay off, it will. The burden may be weighing you down but seriously, it’s won’t be a burden once you begin to accept it as a challenge.
You were created with a talent, search, explore, and assert your talent ✨Failed Aspirations? Definitely not going to be a sad story to tell.
Recently I watched a Ted talk video of Jenn Im, where she said as I quote “You have to be your biggest motivator because the world won’t give it to you each day as a snack”
There’s always the unsure steps and strong finishing to every success story.. So hey what’s yours gonna be like?
Hope you enjoyed reading this post as much as I enjoyed writing it?
It’s not always flowers and sunshine everyday, but at least we’ll get good days.
Smile, because the joke is on the world 🗺
Cheers 🥂
Now don’t forget to drop your amazing comments you know how much I love 📖 reading and responding to them. 😉
Storms are strong winds, that can blow just about everything and anything in its path… Life comes in this obscure form.. Takes its chills and torns on you..
Happiness is not free.. Don’t be deceived, there’s always a price to pay… For everything you get, you’ve given… The pain associated in life is something that doesn’t always gladden my heart to talk or write about.. But that’s why my blog is called deep thoughts… Because these are most probably the thinks we think of.. In the days we are down.
Thank you for coming back here to read my blog.. I’ve taken a while to post this.. Because I had a particular essential presence I needed.. Turns out it wasn’t really necessary.. So now we’re here
Pain comes in different colors, sizes, durations and forms… One thing that is always constant is it never lasts… Have you found yourself in a situation that you subconsciously or perhaps, consciously start to wonder why exactly God singlehandedly picked you from the room of angels and said it was time to live on earth? You’re not alone.. For they’re are many others just like you.. Thinking this same way…
…….
At every humans life.. We might go through hardships, when it seems all hope tarnished, nothing to live for, nothing good to see, nothing to do, we become encumbered with this load of thoughts… That further damage what’s left of ourselves.. I want you to pick up those damaged pieces… And start to fix them together.. You’re probably asking me why?
Oh there’s not a lot of reason why… Its just that for every problem this life throws at you.. Some one somewhere is getting double.. And guess what? That person is still living! So why not keep fighting till you win?
Maybe you’ve spent too much time dwelling on your insecurities, how your future would be.. How your whole life would turn out… Its humanly.. But know that you’re not alone… So take a page back and begin to dwell on the positive sides of your life.. I’m sure you have 1…think deep!
Life walls have got cracks… They always do.. And through these cracks.. Different alein creatures could come in.. They’ll make you uncomfortable, and throw you off balance.. Stand firm.. Mix the flour And fill up those cracks… For when the pathway is closed… There is never any movement.
Can i say your life is what you make it?
so what are you making it
Guess not.. Because sometimes your live depends on the circumstances you find yourself in… What happens when you find yourself in these circumstances are what we call your own MAKING
choose the best decision today,Make Yourself Happy
Apologies to anyone I’ve ever told I loved and later realised I really didn’t..chilllax, it’s only been 1 guy. 😅
I just wonder how people use the word so carefreely like it’s a slang of some sort, if you don’t feel a thing for someone why tell them you love them?
The butterflies in your stomach aren’t fluttering so what’s the deal? The youths of today believe only in lies and deceit so I’m frankly not surprised.
The sad thought is its now a societal norm.. We don’t fall in love anymore, we fall in money, fall in looks, body sizes, colours, sexuality, what happened to seeing a person for who they really are? And loving the personality behind those flaws?
Guess I’ll have to lay my keyboard to rest at this junction. It’s lunchtime and I may miss my meal.
Between you and myself, do people really get butterflies in their belly? I’m just asking for a friend 😁
Don’t forget to like, subscribe and drop your comments..
I was going to write a full story to outline what my points are, but seriously, it’s more than the outlines, So here it goes…
Those who say family are Everything didn’t lie.. Family are your parents, siblings, extended relatives.. But also some friends can be family too.. Because they have shown their worth to you.
As different humans, we all come from different families, the best gift God gave every man, is a backbone, built in family.
Unfortunately, not everyone has that backbone, because actually, not every family is the same, the best way to enjoy life is to accept the kind of family you come from.
No, it wont be all joyous filled with ecstatism, it’ll come with ups and downs, highs and lows..
Maybe it’s high time you accept who you are, maybe it’s high time you love your source, maybe it’s high time you show how much you appreciate your family and friends either big or small. Because somebody, somewhere wants what you have, but it’s too late to get.
Your siblings no matter how annoying are the best humans God chose to surround you. Cherish them.. The world won’t last forever and so wouldn’t their souls.. For someone out there wishes to have a sibling, but doesn’t.
Your parents, who raised you up to the stage where you are,obviously love you too much to had let you go, Do you ever think about how much it’ll mean to them if you actually just showed how much you love and appreciate their efforts. It’s really not easy to train a human. You’ll see for yourself ❤️
You’re a special breed, yes you, you with no backbone to rest on, no family to care, no sibling, you need not be saddled by being responsible for yourself because you do have the almighty Backbone.. (God) and he alone would carry you on.
There are times, seasons, and crimes, but having great families are definitely divine.
Thanks for reading, don’t forget to like, follow my blog and drop your comments 💕
I’ve decided I’d be dropping new topics every Wednesday, so it’ll help in being consistent. So check back every Wednesday. Thank you.
Deepest thoughts 